Connecticut School Shooting: How to Discuss with Your Children

27 people, 18 of them children, are reported dead in the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, according to Newtown Patch. What will you say to your children?

Parents' hearts are in their throats in Cartersville and across the country as news spreads of an elementary school shooting in Connecticut that reportedly took the lives of 18 children and nine adults.

Newtown Patch, our sister site in Connecticut is posting live updates about the shooting, which was reportedly carried out by a single adult who is now dead.

The incident will raise questions about how future such massacres can be prevented. It will also require parents everywhere to figure out how to discuss the violence with their children, many of whom will be returning to their schools next week.

Parenting.com offers advice for discussing tragic incidents with children. Among the suggestions:

  • Don't bring frightening issues up with children under 7, but be prepared to discuss them if your child asks.
  • Reassure your small children that they are safe. Even though you know you can't guarantee it, admitting ambiguity won't be helpful.
  • Ask questions to make sure you understand how your children are feeling, and assure them their feelings are OK.

The New York Times parenting blog offers a dialogue and a video about discussing violent and scary incidents with your kids.

Do you plan to discuss the shooting with your children? How will you go about it? Share your thoughts in the comments.

Theresa Kinton December 15, 2012 at 03:15 AM
Amen Steve.
Crissy W. December 15, 2012 at 05:03 PM
Morals having nothing to do with religion! We have no religious beliefs, but we make sure our children our growing up to be happy, healthy adults. We make sure they know right from wrong and respect all individuals. I think this man had deeper mental issues that religion would not fix.
steve December 16, 2012 at 02:00 PM
Gal 5:16-21 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, [20] Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, [21] Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of heaven. All these deal with morals
Crissy W. December 16, 2012 at 03:45 PM
I wasn't trying in any way to turn this horrific tragedy into a religious debate! I understand what the bible says; but, the point I was trying to make is that you DON'T HAVE to believe in a religion to be a good person. And for the record, my father never misses Sunday service at his church but he wouldn't pee on someone if they were on fire!
CLUBFV December 16, 2012 at 09:26 PM
I like to think that God had nothing to do with this tragedy.


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